Panda Party for the Six-Year-Old!

Ready to eat!

 Love that girl!

Besides the pandas, she requested "Chinese Peanut Noodles" and we had some spring rolls.  She also included a Mexican selection for relatives not so keen on rice and pasta. (:

Gung Hey Fat Choy!

We decided to celebrate Josie's birthday a few weeks early this year for two reasons: 1) she has a follow-up medical appointment out of state the weekend of her birthday and 2) she's five so she gets to invite friends this year. What better day to celebrate than the Chinese New Year! She was super excited and decided to ask her friends to not bring gifts.  Instead, if they wanted to, they could donate to CCAI's Charity Fund. We have $225 ready to send tomorrow! (I think her little friends gave a bit more than they would have spent on a gift!) She has no idea how much money that is, but Chris and I are excited her decision will result in some good half way around the world. We continue to be thankful for the work CCAI does, both in adoptions and in caring for the orphans who remain. We're also pretty proud of our Josie. Not just for this, but for who she is becoming. We're finding she's artistically talented, loves to cuddle, gets frustrated when she cannot communicate what she wants to us, does not want to wait until kindergarten to learn to read and write, and loves to pray. I can't wait to see the young lady she will be at ten and 15 (the other years she gets to invite friends)! Now for the birthday pics:

I gave her several pictures of birthday cake suggestions.  But she looked them all over and started combining them!!!  She came up with red cupcakes with yellow icing Chinese characters (they say "5," "love," "happy birthday," and  "An Hong") on a tiered, ribbon wrapped pedestal.  Phew!  The girl knows what she likes! 

Here she is with a cupcake which says, "love."

Here is Daddy serving the "Chinese red drink" (Cherry 7-UP) to all the little empresses.  Too bad you cannot see the gold stars dangling from the black swirlies dangling from the ceiling.  They were cool!

Some of the fun: Chinese lantern invitations, chop sticks (no, I didn't make English four-year-olds eat their red velvet cupcakes with chopsticks, I thought their parents may like them to wear those clothes again), a panda craft/photo frame (the girls each had their picture taken with Josie), some gold coins with dragons (thank you, Oriental Trading Co.) and the fans, which I hope say something good : )

The hats say "happy birthday" in Mandrin and have "love" stamped around the edges in red.

Happy birthday, Josie An Hong!!!!!! 

PS: Today is also our 3rd anniversary of receiving Josie's referral.  I still remember: "We think we may have a Valentine for you, but we're not sure because she has two arms."  One of the most bizarre and wonderful conversations ever!

Birthday Girl!

big decisions

Josie may have undergone her surgery for no reason. At our last appointment, the surgeon called it a failure. She hasn't gained movement in her shoulder, but he'd warned us she wouldn't gain much. Still, I was glad she'd gained the stability to not have to worry about a posterior shoulder dislocation as she got older. Nope. Apparently he thinks the sutures may have torn (must have happened when she was still under anesthesia...perhaps as they were putting the brace on). Anyway, we'll do e-stim to try to get the movement, but the OT isn't too confident in that approach. Then we'll do a sedated MRI (it takes much more med than it should to get her sedated) and then he'll recommend another surgery...if there's anything left to work with.

But on a happy note, last week Josie was coloring as I was teaching Michael about the moon reflecting the sunshine to us at night. We were discussing how Jesus is the Light of the World like the sun and that makes us like moons. Suddenly Josie piped in with, "Josie Jesus heart." So I said, "Josie, do you want Jesus to be in your heart?" "Yes." "Do you love Jesus?" "Yes." "Do you want to obey Jesus?" "Yes." "Do you need Jesus to save you from your sin?" "Yes." So we prayed. Amazing to me she could comprehend so much after hearing His name for the first time 16 months ago. But at whatever level she could understand, she knew Jesus was a good deal.

Glasses!

Josie isn't falling anymore now that she can see the ground! Here are a couple of pictures of her new glasses. Apparently, astigmatisms are quite common and strong in many Chinese kiddos. Her "gotcha day" fell in such a rushed week, we didn't get to do the usual fancy cake, but she didn't seem to mind. It is so good to see her enjoy getting messy, rather than cry and act scared whenever a crumb dropped. She has become much more physically affectionate with all four of us too, giving out random hugs and kisses and just enjoying resting against us. She is also continuing to use her right arm more and more and is quite proud when she does a new task with it. She can even do some of her exercises on her own now, which is a great help to me in our morning routine!

Adoption Day!

above: Easter Sunday

below: Josie's third birthday

Today is the anniversary of our Josie officially becoming our daughter in Nanjing, PRC!!! It's been a year already! What a year too! Josie has come so far and so have we. She is singing her ABCs (with a few misses, but hey!), she's hugging her brother, chasing her dog, singing when she wakes up in the morning, smiling, trusting us.... She's also gone through Botox injections to her shoulder, an MRI, a tendon transfer, 6 weeks in a nasty brace, and glasses! The glasses was the biggest surprise; it seems she has a pretty nasty astigmatism. But now that she has them and can tell where the floor is, she isn't falling! She's very excited to have them (puts them on first thing in the morning) and is soooo cute in them! (I know, I know...I'll get a picture on as soon as I can.)



We have enjoyed watching her personality bubble up. She is very, very ornery and just grins the biggest grins when she's pulled something on one of us. She loves to giggle, to eat, and to run. She comes up with the family's funniest "walks" which we imitate on our way to bed after praying together at night. She has a "little old lady" walk which she brought with her from China. She showed Grams today but smartly answered it was not Grams. She is loud and bold and opinionated. She tells people she's three whether they ask or not (or if they ask HOW she is doing). She likes to wrestle with Michael and dress dolls with Chloe. Today she built a Lincoln Log house exactly like Michael was building. She imitates him no matter what he is doing. Usually it's good, but there are times.... She is three, you know!



But at the first anniversary mark, we'd all say we are so thankful to have Josie in our lives and cannot imagine life without her. She is a treasure and one we get to enjoy. To think we could have missed it. I'm so sad for all the families who have not risked, who stayed comfortable and spent their money on things they won't remember five years from now. Adoption is so worth it. She is so worth it. We are so happy you are home, Josie; we love you!

music video

The following link will take you to YouTube to watch a video. The video is great. At the end, there's a plug for supporting a non-profit. We aren't really endorsing this particular charity, though they are linked with Hand in Hand, which is now covering the special needs adoptions out of Nanjing Social Welfare Institute (Josie's orphanage). I'm posting the link because I wanted to share the video with you!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iC2rmCRQRKQ&eurl=http://chadtarajourney.blogspot.com/
Make sure you check out the video links in the upper right corner too!

Merry Christmas!

Ni hao! (That’s Mandarin for "hi".) As per Riddle tradition, as the new member of the family, I am writing the Christmas letter and giving my version of 2007. It’s been a big year for me and it is good to be HOME!

My name is Josie and I’m two and three quarters. I’ve been here seven months and feel like I’m just warming up. I think I’ve got Michael under control now; Chloe was wrapped around my little finger from that first moment. It did take awhile to get used to Daddy and Mommy: their hair color and the way they talk and respond, it was all very strange. But now I feel free!! My heart used to feel so heavy I barely ever smiled. I spent my time positioning myself with the other kids and trying to get the nannies to give me what I wanted. But here I can be myself and I am figuring out who that is. I’ve found I like to grin and sing. I can eat all the food I want. All I have to do is say "hug" or "lap" and I’ve got it. The idea of a daddy and a mommy all for me is pretty awesome. It’s a whole new world in so many ways.

Here are some of our milestones:
February 14th Daddy and Mommy received my referral call and saw my picture for the first time. Happy Valentine’s Day!
March 7th was my birthday but I didn’t know it or know I had a family.
On May 8th I met my daddy and mommy and officially became theirs the next day in my hometown of Nanjing, PRC.

The summer was a blur of adjustment. There were swimming lessons (for the siblings-the tub was plenty scary for me), road trips, and lots of immunizations.
Then in the fall school started and we settled into a new routine. Chloe is a first grader who loves pink, princesses, girlfriends, singing, and her little sister and brother. Michael does some pre-k activities, but mostly plays with me. He loves going, going fast, Lightning McQueen, laughter, and AWANA. He had surgery in February and is feeling (and sleeping) much better.

I’m really liking the Christmas lights and can’t wait to discover what we do at this time of year. Mommy says she can’t wait until I understand why we do what we do at Christmas time. Merry Christmas, everyone!


Love,
Josie An

(Here I am signing "I love you.")

Christmas '07

Click play to see Chris' slide show of before and after pictures

of Josie set to Third Day's Merry Christmas song.

Six Months Since Gotcha Day!

Six months ago today, Chris and I held Josie for the first time. Jillions of hugs and kisses later, we took the kids to lunch at a local Chinese restaurant to celebrate. Josie liked everything (as usual). And since it was American Chinese food, there were only a couple of things Mommy ran into that she didn't like ( : We decided those must be the more authentic selections. Josie didn't know why Mommy didn't care for them.

Now she's taking her nap. She knows the routine. After a diaper change, she'll get to watch a short video with her siblings, usually of children singing songs or of talking vegetables. Then she'll have some play time before Daddy comes home and we have dinner (not that we'll be able to eat much after that lunch!). Next there will probably be some reading and wrestling with Daddy before it is time to stretch her elbow, range her shoulder and strengthen her external rotators. Then there's the usual bedtime rituals of PJs, teeth brushing, and face washing. We'll all pray together on the couch, someone will choose how to go to bed (planes and skipping are favorites), and Daddy and Mommy will do their special pattern of hugs and kisses. "Good night, Josie. We love you like crazy cakes. See you in the morning, Sweet Potato."

Part of the Family

We have acutally had a few people request another update, so here it is. However, this should be seen only as a weening post. ( : I'll try to remember to update here in 6 months and a year.

More and more Josie is fitting in to the family and we are also merging. She is more smiles than screams now. She loves to race her thumb to her mouth at bedtime before Mommy can get her kissed and laughs hysterically when she has her thumb subsequently plucked from her mouth. This is our nightly ritual. But then, so is her throwing her little China girl doll on the floor as soon as I shut the door! She is also realizing Mommy is more stubborn than Josie and is making some better choices because of it. She is enjoying farm animal books and makes the sounds along with us. Michael can "read" these books to her too. She still dislikes her exercises but is improving in her range of motion because of them. We visit a specialist medical team in August and plan to start the re-do of the immunizations as well as the blood work and TB test then. We hope she will be able to visit her Nanjing buddies (Abby and Rylan) in the future. Actually Chris and I want to stay in contact with our traveling partners too and enjoy hearing about how they are doing.

Air Guitar Josie

Oh, the fun we will have!

WOW!

Saturday Chris and I received a response from Shaohannah's Hope (Steven and Mary Beth Chapman's adoption facilitation non-profit). We were shocked and elated to read we are recipients of a grant for the adoption!!! I wanted to just share it here (even though I didn't plan to add to this site) mainly because I want to say, "God was gracious, even though I was pouty." I am so grateful for the help and so...I don't know the word for the emotion! I am glad God saw fit to give it to us even though He didn't have to. It is a reminder that He knows my heart and loves me anyway. He gives like a parent more concerned with the daughter's character and faith that the gift itself. I had been disturbed that trying to be wise financially resulted in less help than if we'd gotten into debt. At the same time, I was grateful for what we had. So those two thoughts battled in my mind. And then He does this.

Two Week Update

She knows she's cute! And she's starting to realize she's loved. We are seeing loads of smiles, getting lots of sweet kisses, and she's beginning to be comfortable being held and cuddled. In fact, she is now willingly making the choice to calm down in our arms (rather than raging against being held against her will) and making long eye contact and smiling after she calms!! This is a huge blessing and something we have been praying for. (Resisting or disliking being held is one of the signs of a lack of attachment and she definately struggled here.) I cannot tell you how thrilled I am! We received an attachment checklist from our agency and I was encouraged to see the progress from our first days home to today. She is quite responsive to us and is becoming more so every day.

She is also giving and receiving love from her big sister and even starting to from her big brother (when he's not taking her toys). We went to lunch today with THREE of her grandmas and her grandpa and she actually said, "done" when I told her she didn't have to keep eating. Wow, saying no to food is a big one! She no longer displays fear of T-Rex and she cries only seconds when put to bed. My feelings of attachment are much stronger now that I am well, and amazingly, those sessions of holding her through her rage and anger and sweat and tears has drawn her much closer to my heart. I found myself uttering promises to her I couldn't have said two weeks ago.

Yesterday a visitor commented her husband decided against trying to adopt out of the foster system. He was concerned (and with good reason) of what a damaged 2 or 3 year old would be like, the chaos it would create in the family, and whether he would be able to love a child like that in comparison to his bio children. I know I cannot speak to loving a bio child. And adjustments of all kinds are difficult. But, oh, how I wish they would do it. Tears well just thinking about it. The risk IS huge. But the thought of the unknown is worse than the reality...especially the reality after adjustment! There is such a need. No child deserves to be brought up without a family. We've often said if everyone who thought about it did it, we wouldn't have an orphan crisis in our world. Josie just gave me a high five for that line! But we've convinced no one. I would so love to know that this blog of our experience helped an orphan to find family or encouraged someone to support a family trying to adopt. 5.5 million in Africa. 3.5 million in Asia. 1.5 million in Eastern Europe. 400,000 in Latin America. 135,000 in the US.

Thank you for walking through this with us. We have needed your support over these last three years. This chapter is closing. But stay tuned, we hope there will be more to come. Michael still wants that little brother. And when asked if they would rather have help paying for college or bring another little one home from an orphanage, our kids show big hearts. (Okay, and a good measure of ignorance!) Laura F., I don't now about the "100 children legend", but if God provides a way....Let's just say the emboidered picture you brought us from China is on our living room wall as a reminder. We are thinking of Ethiopia. But that would be impossible; another international adoption; no way could we do that. Wait, didn't we say that before?

"But you, O God, do see trouble and grief;

You consider it to take it in hand.

The victim commits himself to you;

you are the helper of the fatherless."

Psalm 10:14

What a Difference a Family Makes!

J ust two weeks,
O h how far she's come!
S ee her pet the dog?
I magine the difference a family makes.
E ncouraging, isn't it?

(Ready to see it for yourself? Visit familylife.com and click on "hope for orphans" or do an internet search for "waiting children and adoption." Or, if you can't, please find a family who is trying and help them make it a reality!)

Our "blue couch photos"

Yeah!

One Week Update

Yeah!!!
*Our lost luggage was found and delivered via FedEx. Nothing was broken!
*We've had visits from Selena's brother, nephew, sister, mom and aunt, Tammie and Makayla, the Simmons, the Balls, LuzBetty, the Eckels and Samson! Chris' parents will be here next week and both Josie's great-grandmas on that side are also planning a visit thanks to them.
*Selena is feeling MUCH better and no longer associates being sick with Josie. ( :
*Josie no longer screams whenever a sibling touches her or she sees T-Rex. (She even pet the dog and now enjoys chasing him and then barking at him!)
*After Selena had to miss church Sunday to keep her bugs to herself, she is much looking forward to tomorrow (three weeks away is too long). We plan to wear our Chinese outfits.
*Josie cries when put to bed, but stays there and soon falls asleep. She usually sleeps until we wake her.
*Friends from church have provided a couple of meals, with more planned (thank you, thank you!).
*Our photos are being developed.
*Our stomachs have stretched back to their original size so we can eat full meals again and we have recovered from the time change.
*Chloe and Michael continue to love Josie and enjoy telling her that in the midst of her fits: "I love you anyway!"
*Josie's skin is doing so much better. The scars are fading well and she's not scratching nearly as much. She is also not screaming at bath time and is enjoying parts of it.
*We still aren't satisfied with her level of dependence on us as her sole providers/parents, but today when introduced to a friend (a stranger to her) after she initially went freely to him to be held, she pulled back and wanted Mommy. He graciously understood this was a good thing.

Here's a picture from Aunt Janice from the 1:00am first meeting:

"I can't believe she's really here!"-Chloe

Dancing to Cedarmont Kids

(I think this is how Chloe learned English!)

Adjustment to Home

One of the things the orphanage taught me was that whatever behaviors Josie has, there is a reason for them.


*She stuffs food in her face until she cannot chew it, let alone swallow. Then it all comes out.
*She screams when a child touches her and pushes away.
*She collapses into a puddle and cries out whenever displeased.
*She runs full force and collapses into us with no regard for her safety or ours.
*A friend of hers would growl and grunt in bizarre ways when not happy.

-They told me "when her bowl is empty, show it to her or she'll cry." She'd never been fed until she was full. (I took a picture of a young girl for her coming-soon American mom. She would not put down her bowl for the picture even with great coaxing from the nannies. I took several pictures with the bowl at her mouth, it contained a bit of broth she'd not yet finished.)
-She's territorial and must defend her space.
-Chinese people pay attention to the crying baby (even complete strangers help if the child cries).
-There's a good chance the nanny will catch you if you'll be hurt otherwise.
-This last one was the most shocking for me and thankfully, one Josie uses the least.



It has been very difficult for me to deal with the constant fits. We tried comforting and ignoring. Now we just say "no" "up" and lift her back to her feet. But we have to do this continually: if we say no, if she sees the dog, if Michael or Chloe touch her, if I am requiring her to feed herself the fingerfood, if it is time for bed, etc. But it is getting better. She slept through the night last night. She used her fork at lunch as long as I loaded it. She is saying at least one new English word a day.

Chloe and Michael are doing well with her. Chris reminds me she is cute and will become more and more the child God intends her to be. I'm still in the "Why did we do this? We were really happy with two children" mode, but know my adjustment will come around as well. We know the truth: she is a beautiful creation, she was meant for our family, I was meant to be her Mom, and God will give me all I need to love her day by day. Soon it will come as naturally as breathing and yet surprise me with its strength. I have seen glimpses. I have experienced it twice before. And I am all the more grateful for a God who took me when I was a wreck and continues to love me through my fits, knowing I am not what I will be through His love and care.


The below pictures are of our first meeting.

Later, when asked what the orphanage wanted Josie to know in the future, the nanny said, that "she is usually afraid of strangers, but she went right to you; you were meant to be her mom." Now, maybe she was talking about the first second, because, as you can see, this was not a child who was happy the second second! Perhaps it was a standard line. But I also asked what they liked most about Josie. First they said, "she's smart," but they quickly changed it to "her smile."

or the third second!

Ah, but thanks to Mr. Scott and Grandpa Riddle, we were prepared with fruit chews!

Josie thinking, "you look really weird."

Here we are introducing her to her big sister and brother.

Her Half-the-Sky grandmother is there: the person she was closest to in all the world.

Orphans

This little one has a family! You can tell by the collection of items under her crib which came in a care package. Josie received something similar from us.

When our group saw the number of babies in their cribs (and we just visited one floor), someone asked when their paperwork would be done (ie-why do we have to wait so long?) The interpreter told us they had to wait to see which ones could be adopted (ie. strong enough to survive; adoptable through the typical program; or with special needs, but of the variety Americans would still adopt). Lying in the corner of the room, closest to us was a baby with an eye infection. The cellulitis (red, inflammation of tissue) was extensive: at least an inch all the way around the eye socket. I wondered if she would loose her sight. I thought of my antibiotics back in my bag at the hotel room. I thought of the eye doctor from my church who'd have that baby healthy in no time. I wondered if she would be a survivor. I wanted to go in and pick her up and pray over her. I just took a picture and walked to the next room.

I belive this is the one, right in the corner. But I'm not positive-there were several rooms just like this.

More Pictures: Beijing

Beijing was our first stop and looking back, taught us the most about China. This was mainly because of our guide. She ran a narrative the entire time we were with her. For instance, at Tienneman Square she informed us the Chinese people are forbidden to talk about what happened there and she does not know herself. She wasn't asking us for information, just stating she didn't know and couldn't find out. The image of that tank rolling over an unarmed person standing in silent protest was one of my earliest images of China and remains a vivid picture of our deep need for freedom and the ability to find Truth. She also spoke of Hong Kong and Taiwan along Community Party lines and I realized (I don't know why I was suprised) this was all she'd ever heard. She had no idea this was a point of contention with the Western world or that those rooms held for them in the builing behind us would remain empty if the said inhabitants had their way. None from our group told her anything different; there was no opening, no desire to know.

This is one of the stadiums being built for the 2008 Olympics. She told us there were three things the Olympic Committee wanted Beijing to address: 1) the pollution, 2) the traffic, and 3) supplying enough English translators. We found the way these were being addressed very interesting. Several companies who produce the most pollution were relocated to different parts of China, with the government footing the bill. I cannot imagine the cost of this, and wonder what the same money applied to green technology would have done. But they just moved the problem. Greenery was then brought in. Everywhere were new trees and shrubs, freshly planted. Our guide told us the Beijing people were most excited about this as their city was much more beautiful now. Lastly, the government began counting the "blue skies." Everyday that some patch of blue sky was visable, it was a blue sky day. Indeed, we saw some! Our guide hadn't seen any before these changes were made, it was always grey. Still, it was notibly polluted to us and several of us experienced sore throats while we were there from the pollution. #2 Traffic. A new mass transit system is being installed at great cost. But our guide is 100% confident the Beijing people will not use it after the Olympics. She said they would not want to be crowded together when they could drive. Also, she said the government will just tell the people to drive on X days if they had an even tag and on Y days if an odd tag. She thought the Chinese were very clever and could come up with out of the Western box solutions. And even though she'd told us in numerous ways that the Chinese people consider laws to be suggestions and are really in it for themselves, she told us here that they would put country above themselves. #3 English translators: she thought this bizarre since every student is taught English and they have billions of people. The taxi drivers are having mandatory English lessons to keep their licenses, but she says they are quite resentful of this.

And three other tidbits: 1) She believes the USA will not permit Chinese people entry as tourists! She thinks this a grave economic mistake on the part of America, since they have money to spend. No one told her that it is China who limits this, not the US! 2) She counts it odd the Americans believe in God (the majority of the Americans she interacts with are adopting and are Christian). She said her parents' generation worshipped Buddha, but only when she had a test they wanted her to pass. Now, our group thought that sounded like a lot of nominal Christians in the US, so we have that in common! But she said her generation (she is 25) does not rely on a god, they rely on themselves. For me, this explained a lot of the little cultural differences I'd been experiencing: the Chinese do not form lines, it's cut and shove and every man for himself; the distain for the disabled; the incredulous looks and questions at why we'd want more than one child (they cost $ to raise) or why we'd take one who had a disability. But she also said that after being around us "crazy Americans" for two years she'd decided to have a child. Before she didn't want to because she likes her $ too much. Now she thinks she will since her mother-in-law would help care for him/her. But she and her husband are dragon and tiger. This year's pig wouldn't be a good match, maybe next year.

Some Laughs

Pictures are coming, really! Our internet is too slow to download them so as soon as I get a chance to borrow some high-speed access (ie, when may I come over, Mom?), I'll share some shots of the orphanage (great for insight into Josie's behavior) as well as some homecoming picts.

But here are some humorous China moments:

*A saleslady in Guangzhou asked a group in her way if she could "pass away". She meant pass through but the rude English-speaking man informed her she could pass away any moment and it would be fine with him. We did take the time to explain she'd just asked permission to die and which word to use next time. This was the same lady in whose store Chris had passed 20 minutes during a Josie nap time. Every time she asked if he "liked", he's say "maybe" totally frustrating her. (You have to remember a customer is stalked with great determination since commission is involved.) She remembered him and called us by name every time we went by (which was often since it was on the way to Lucy's-the American food restaurant).

*The Nanjing orphanage girls started out growling at each other if the other came too close to the food supply those first days. Their "sharing" consisted of taking pretend crumbs of food and offering it to one another (and it was pretend eaten!). By the last day together, Abby had a hamburger and was freely offering Josie bites. They had figured out the food was in good supply.

*At Lucy's the first time, Josie had some ketchup on her face and grunted for a napkin. When I realized we didn't have any and communicated that, she pretend picked one up, dabbed the corners of her mouth and then set it down on the table before giving us a sparkling grin. I wasn't expecting pretend play and was delighted.

*Rylan, another Nanjing child, was a hoot. He has a hilarious sideways glance that always left a grin on my face. We explained to his parents that in India, marriages are arranged and we often tell Chloe this. So I suggested an early arrangement between Rylan and Josie. We took their picture in front of a carved jade castle (future home). But they act more like siblings. In fact, when they were told no for rocking a stroller, Rylan immediately pointed to Josie and raised his eyebrows in an innocent/wrongly accused expression. This family lives only one state away so we hope to see them again. (SIL Linda-they are from your home town!) The dads were watching the kids while moms were in a meeting. Rylan dropped a cheerio and when dad picked it up to throw it away he melted to the floor in typical Nanjing orphanage fashion and began to howl. Chris quickly grabbed the bag to show him there were more, but unfortunately, grabbed it from Josie who then also melted to the floor in pathetic wailing. The dads just looked at one another. There is no going back once the melt has begun. (P.S. this is the reaction T-Rex gets evey time Josie sees him; he sulks to his kennel each time.)

*Small world: There was a couple in our group which had grown up in Chris' home town and 12 miles from my maternal home town. In a bus once, I asked the American couple behind me where they were from and they were from the same state. We were the third couple they had met from our state! On finding day, friends from our group chatted with a couple from another agency who was also receiving a daughter from Nanjing. Turns out that couple had once lived where they lived and they'd gone to the same church.